It can be easy to forget how strong you’ve been. It can be easy to forget how much you’ve gotten yourself through. Instead, we can end up focusing on the injustices and the cruelty towards us. We can sit and ruminate over all the things we could’ve done better, should’ve done differently. And all theContinue reading “How you survived is more important than how you were victimised”
Author Archives: rebeccaallenwellness
I see breadcrumbs from the divine everywhere
Today’s Mindset Monday is courtesy of the safest, most encouraging place for writers @inspiredtowrite. Amies work has picked me up on more dark nights than I can count. Thank you for that. So let us take this week by the horns/ba11s/whatever you are vibing with right now, and seek the TINY beautiful things. The miniature YAY’sContinue reading “I see breadcrumbs from the divine everywhere”
You can be aware of the damage someone has caused you without harbouring painful resentment towards them
This is my biggest and greatest lesson this year. I am doing MYSELF a disservice to harbour anger and resent and pain against someone else. It has taken me so long to learn and accept this. So many years clinging onto anger in the hope it would make things right. So much time wasted holdingContinue reading “You can be aware of the damage someone has caused you without harbouring painful resentment towards them”
The Will to Live Project
At some point since 2020 (peak Rebecca power chic takes on the world), I gave up. I don’t know if it was the multiple metaphorical hits to the groin, the miscarriage, the money problems or just general ageing. But it happened.And I’ve spent huge parts of the last two years wishing I was 2020 me.Continue reading “The Will to Live Project”
What would need to change in your life for you to feel safe?
For me, it was fast paced overwhelming city life. I was already dealing with a faulty anxiety mechanism that was working too hard and reacting to too much. My body was in just as much of a rush as my mind was to get out of every single situation that didn’t involve being curled upContinue reading “What would need to change in your life for you to feel safe?”
You’re walking through the “it’s complicated” era with me.
(Dated Jan 2023) You’re walking through the “it’s complicated” era with me.The “I’m right where I need to be” but also “I’m being dragged through the mud by my ears” era.The “my whole environment is so perfect” era, and yet the “my whole soul is in turmoil” era. When the mud and silt of “beingContinue reading “You’re walking through the “it’s complicated” era with me.”
Other people’s jealousy is not your responsibility
It is not your responsibility to make yourself smaller so that other people don’t get jealous. It is not your responsibility to dim your light to ensure you don’t trigger someone else’s control issues. It is not your responsibility to limit your potential to avoid activating someone’s insecurities. Read that again. This is for myContinue reading “Other people’s jealousy is not your responsibility”
What might it take to become more than my own limitations?
Here I am, slumped on the kitchen floor throwing affirmations at the wall until one sticks. I twirl the soggy spaghetti pieces of abundance and manifestations around my fingers, I even wear them as a moustache on my face. But still. No luck. What might it take to become more than my own limitations? ToContinue reading “What might it take to become more than my own limitations?”
I choose to see the light I am to this world
MINDSET MONDAY! I’m sharing this as someone who has spent so much of their life seeing the dark in myself that she didn’t even believe any light existed. I know the way I can present myself on here at times looks like I’ve got it all together. Like I couldn’t love myself anymore than IContinue reading “I choose to see the light I am to this world”
Hating myself was powerful
Hating myself was powerful.Grown up and childish all at the same time.A marker of how strong I’d been.And how weak I was. “Creator of crises.” I addressed myself.“Why do you pain me so?”The vicious cycle of self sabotage fuelled by own ally – myself. The stubbornness of refusing to let the pain go.I needed peopleContinue reading “Hating myself was powerful”