It can be easy to forget how strong you’ve been. It can be easy to forget how much you’ve gotten yourself through. Instead, we can end up focusing on the injustices and the cruelty towards us. We can sit and ruminate over all the things we could’ve done better, should’ve done differently. And all theContinue reading “How you survived is more important than how you were victimised”
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You can be aware of the damage someone has caused you without harbouring painful resentment towards them
This is my biggest and greatest lesson this year. I am doing MYSELF a disservice to harbour anger and resent and pain against someone else. It has taken me so long to learn and accept this. So many years clinging onto anger in the hope it would make things right. So much time wasted holdingContinue reading “You can be aware of the damage someone has caused you without harbouring painful resentment towards them”
Knowing how to belong to oneself is the most important thing in the world
So hear me out. I think this self-enforced isolation and solitude chapter I have plonked myself in is explicitly for me to feel everything. I think I’m supposed to feel it all. And just watch it wash away with the tide as I sleep. I think that maybe, MAYBE, I’ve been so swept away byContinue reading “Knowing how to belong to oneself is the most important thing in the world”
I’ve come to see the importance of involving difficult people om my life.
I’ve come to see the importance of involving difficult people in my life. Difficult people aren’t there to make me feel good 24/7, or agree with everything I say. Instead, they may often shed light on the truth of situations that people who only feel love for you may not want to say, or perhapsContinue reading “I’ve come to see the importance of involving difficult people om my life.”
What would it look like to greet unwanted emotions with curiosity, rather than shame?
I’ve been practicing correcting negative self-talk around this recently: From: “Rebecca, why can’t you just deal with this like normal people can?” To: “Those are some big feelings, they’re all okay, you are safe. Is there something else going on right now that could be amplifying this? Can you be curious about these emotions whilstContinue reading “What would it look like to greet unwanted emotions with curiosity, rather than shame?”
Respect your own energy
There is a difference between a lack of self discipline and consciously choosing to rest. Consciously choosing to rest IS self discipline. Consciously choosing to rest IS respecting your own energy. And respecting your own energy is the KEY to understanding how to best utilise your own workflow. Just because everyone else does it oneContinue reading “Respect your own energy”
Anger can be good if it’s an energy that motivates you towards action
I believe I am coming to the final part of ‘The Great Transition’ you’ve been watching me go through over the last 2 years. How do I know? Because for the first time in a long time, I’ve started getting angry. At first it was out of control and intense, repressed and provoked like aContinue reading “Anger can be good if it’s an energy that motivates you towards action”