This is my biggest and greatest lesson this year. I am doing MYSELF a disservice to harbour anger and resent and pain against someone else. It has taken me so long to learn and accept this. So many years clinging onto anger in the hope it would make things right. So much time wasted holdingContinue reading “You can be aware of the damage someone has caused you without harbouring painful resentment towards them”
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Hating myself was powerful
Hating myself was powerful.Grown up and childish all at the same time.A marker of how strong I’d been.And how weak I was. “Creator of crises.” I addressed myself.“Why do you pain me so?”The vicious cycle of self sabotage fuelled by own ally – myself. The stubbornness of refusing to let the pain go.I needed peopleContinue reading “Hating myself was powerful”
I live, in essence, in solitude. By choice.
(Written Jan 2023) As many of you know, I currently live a very isolated life. I am 300 miles away from my boyfriend in a stunning rural setting, don’t have a car, and often go days without seeing another human being. I don’t watch the news or engage in external affairs. I don’t have closeContinue reading “I live, in essence, in solitude. By choice.”
What would it look like to greet unwanted emotions with curiosity, rather than shame?
I’ve been practicing correcting negative self-talk around this recently: From: “Rebecca, why can’t you just deal with this like normal people can?” To: “Those are some big feelings, they’re all okay, you are safe. Is there something else going on right now that could be amplifying this? Can you be curious about these emotions whilstContinue reading “What would it look like to greet unwanted emotions with curiosity, rather than shame?”
Start talking to yourself like a therapist
When you start talking to yourself like a therapist: Previously…Me: “I feel so sad/depressed/angry about [insert absolutely anything]”My brain 🧠: yeah yeah we get itttt can we move on now please this feeling is literally taking over ur life it’s really not that big a deal u drama queen.Now…Me: “I feel so sad/depressed/angry about [insertContinue reading “Start talking to yourself like a therapist”