It can be easy to forget how strong you’ve been. It can be easy to forget how much you’ve gotten yourself through. Instead, we can end up focusing on the injustices and the cruelty towards us. We can sit and ruminate over all the things we could’ve done better, should’ve done differently. And all theContinue reading “How you survived is more important than how you were victimised”
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Maybe you restrict your potential as an adult because it was unsafe as a child to have strengths
Perhaps being good at something, standing out, having attention drawn to you was not a good thing for you as a child. Perhaps it led to volatile reactions from caregivers or the people around you. Perhaps it triggered jealous feelings in others, which in turn led to your punishment or isolation. Perhaps that mentality gotContinue reading “Maybe you restrict your potential as an adult because it was unsafe as a child to have strengths”
Traumatized individuals are often stuck in a painful paradox: to be close to another is felt to be unsafe, but so is aloneness
Traumatized individuals are often stuck in a painful paradox: to be close to another is felt to be unsafe, but so is aloneness. We cannot trust either option. We experience our minds as alone (the most challenging way to deal with trauma) and also feel on high alert all the time, with no one allowedContinue reading “Traumatized individuals are often stuck in a painful paradox: to be close to another is felt to be unsafe, but so is aloneness”